Is it okay to lie to your significant other?

Growing up, mother’s everywhere always tell their children that honesty is the best policy, but is it really? There are a few times when you just have to fudge the truth a tiny bit.

It’s no surprise that both genders rely on lying to some extent to keep the peace. They just do it differently and sometimes for different reasons.

All humans, especially women say they want their partner to be honest. Is this the truth? Can you keep a relationship up and running if you are telling the truth all the time?

Imagine that you just have brought your girlfriend at your home, to spend the night together for the first time. You have made a great effort to arrange and clean your home and especially the bedroom. You are proud about this and ask your partner what she believes about your home.

She responds “It is a little old fashioned… and something smells bad in here”. Ups!  Ok.

You two pass through this awkward moment, then you start kissing each other, but you make a joke about… the size of your penis, and instead to hear the most used reply: “hey, relax, size really doesn’t matter”, she tells you that her ex was quite huge.

Ups… Not again. 🙂

If she were to say just two little lies everything could be great, but now…

The truth is, telling a few lies can be one of the best ways to keep your relationship healthy.

So if you want to keep her happy and keep getting laid, you’re going to have to learn how to lie – and lie convincingly. The trick is figuring out what she wants to hear.

1. Never mention your sexual past… especially if it was a good one. If your girlfriend asks you what it was like or how good your ex was, you can tell a lie if you have to. Say it wasn’t all that good. Don’t ever mention her. Even if what you’re saying is uncomplimentary, it will still have a negative effect. You bringing her up hints that she’s still on your mind.

2. When it comes about how she looks, if you picked her to be your partner, you have to make her feel that she is a WOMAN. Every woman has something beautiful, something sexy and attractive, and if you make her know that you find her attractive she will be more confident, wilder and more passionate. But when she asks you about something you don’t really like at her look, never but never tell her your true opinion. Just say that it is OK and pass over the moment. If you are telling her that you don’t like something at her, she will feel frustrated and become more inhibited.

3. Everybody knows that women have more sensibility than men. So pay attention to her sensibility and don’t make bad jokes about other people (especially her family) or let her know when you are up to take the cat and throw it out through the window.  She will find you insensitive and you will lose points.  Use your common sense and try not to hurt your woman’s feelings even if you have to say a little lie from time to time.

Overall, lying is a bad thing to do. But when it comes to women, you really have no choice.

The little white lies don’t hurt anyone and are only meant as reassurance every now and then

It’s therefore okay to tell a person what they want to hear just to keep the peace.

Some of the best advice I ever heard was to learn to pick your battles. Only fight about what REALLY matters. So if you know saying something is going to set her off, is it really worth it?

 

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5 Ways to Improve Your Online Relationship

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow.

Here are some quick tips to help improve your online relationship over time.

1. Take time and make time.  Although this one should be an obvious, you’d be surprised how many people don’t take the time to give their significant other enough time.

Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.  Just because you have no problem posting pictures online, doesn’t mean the other person does. You should ask before you post anything online of another person.

4. Share special online and offline fun times. It doesn’t matter if you are in an offline or online relationship … you still need to have special and fun things that you can do. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

5. Don’t forget important events. When is the first time you met (even if just online)? When is the first time you decided to be more than just friends? Write these dates down and celebrate them with your online lover. You’d be surprised how grateful your significant other will be. Just because your relationship is only online doesn’t make it any less real and a fundamental part of relationships are celebrating special events together. If you have a problem remembering important dates, use Google calendar or set a reminder in your smartphone.

Tend your online relationship just as you would an offline relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow … and who knows, maybe one day it can be something more.

Building Your Confidence in Dating Women

When it comes to dating or even seducing a woman, confidence is vital.

Let’s be real, confidence is the key to success with anything you do in life … relationships, your career, getting a raise. Haven’t you ever seen a really hot girl with some average guy and wondered how in the hell he got her? Self confidence!

Women often equate “self confidence” with the ability to be successful. While many men believe that women look for successful men because they’re likely to make more money, that’s simply not true.

While it’s a given, women actually look for successful men because they’re more likely to be satisfied. So you may be wondering what a man being satisfied has to do with anything. Let me explain. You see, women know that men who are satisfied with themselves are less likely to go out looking for someone to satisfy them and are more stable.

And in a relationship that means a man will be less likely to cheat, or change jobs frequently or get himself into any number of other compromising situations. Remember that most women are looking for a man who will be their partner as well as their lover.

Not only do they want a partner when it comes to things like companionship, decision-making and finances, but in the bedroom, as well. In order to effectively seduce a woman you must make her feel as though you’re both equals.

When it comes to confidence, it seems there are two kinds of people – those who have it and others who simply don’t. Although on the surface this may be true, everyone has the potential to be “self confident”, or motivated if you would like to call it.

Take heart in knowing that you’re a good person, smart, funny, good at your job, loving, considerate or whatever else you find to be positive character traits that you have. Be comforted to know that NOT all women are looking for a CEO or brain surgeon. They just want a man who’s confident with who he is, what he knows and what he has to offer to a relationship with them!

7 Tips For Dating Older Woman

Men are interested in dating older women because they are more experienced and more capable of  handling relationships smoothly. Older women are more mature, financially independent, and good  lovers.

Younger men have been attracted to older women for a long time. This happens because older women are mature, know what expect from life, and do not care about what ‘neighbors say’.  If in the past this was a big shame, today these couples are not keeping in secret anymore their relationship.

Dating older woman can be a nice and exciting experience. If you are a person interested in dating older woman, you must think before because there are good parts and bad parts.

Some of the bad parts are that she has passed over in life and has many worries. She has ex-boyfriends, husbands, children’s, pending divorces, financial obligations, debts. Maybe your friends will consider you a hero, but your friends will talk about you, frown upon you. Remember that she is older than you are, has life experience, so she is often in control, and would like to manipulate you.

The good part is that she knows a lot about female- male relationships. She knows very well what she wants and from whom and they usually looking for a man that consider like them that compatibility and open communication are  more important than age. They do not need a man to take care of them. Older women are forthright and honest and they will tell you right off, what she thinks about you so you do not have to wonder where you stand with her.

It is necessary that you find an older woman who is interested in a younger man. You will have bigger chances of success to win her heart .If  you already have a date with her, do not blow up. Here are some helpful tips for attracting her.

Be yourself. She is dating you because she likes you; you offer her spontaneity and fun. So, do not even think about impersonating someone that you are not.

Take her somewhere she has never been before; show her that you are different from other men your age. Invite her at a jazz club, concert or an exotic restaurant.

You must change the topic of your discussions. Ask about her job, hobbies, what type of music she likes… Lady is smart, confident and mature, so do not discuss about age. You should be confident too.

Be spontaneous. Offer her something that people her age cannot, like excitement in and out of the bed. She is usually not looking for a serious relationship – she just wants to have fun. However, it is true that older women can do a lot for a younger man – besides sex.

Do not compare her to your ex. This would not make her feel better with you. The older woman can feel comfortable being with you even if you are younger and it will be at ease with your presence. Make her feel important and show her that you are interested in her.

You have to have the same intensity about life like her. You must know that an older woman will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask what you are thinking, and this should not bother to you.

Do not move too fast. You know that she is not looking to make fast a family, because she already had one and that one failed. Maybe she already has children’s and this will complicate things. You should always be willing to accept the complications that come with dating an older woman.