You have met an interesting woman online. You two had a great time chatting online and she decided to give you her phone number. Now you have to make her want to see you face to face and the phone is your only tool.
The first telephone call is the most important one. Sure you have her number, but nothing has been won yet.
1. Before you call you should have prepared a list of several topics to talk about. Hopefully, your email exchange has provided you with some information to follow up on. Study her profile to think of other topics to talk about. Prepare open-ended questions. Start talking about a subject, and give her a chance to speak as well.
2. DON’T: ask her questions about other guys she’s seeing, suspiciously interrogate her about how she spends her time, and angrily reprimand her for flaking on you. How she spends her time is her business.
A lot of men sabotage their chances with a woman by not giving her enough credit and respect.
You know there’s trouble if you’re doing all the talking and her replies are short or non-existent. If so it either means you haven’t hit on the right topic to talk about, or, more likely, she simply isn’t interested. Also, if she ends the conversation early or “has to go”, leave it up to her to call you again, if she wants to. Usually, she won’t.
So, when talking to a woman on the phone DON’T worry about impressing her. Have fun. Enjoy the conversation. Amuse yourself.
3. At first phone conversation is better to stay away of complimenting her. I think giving women compliments can be very powerful. But when you give a woman compliments within the context of trying to win her over, you become a wuss.
Usually, women are curious about why the men they are talking to online decided to pick them instead of other thousandths of profiles. Most of them will ask you about these “reasons” and by doing this are giving you the opportunity to make her compliments. So, wait for the moment. 🙂
If the conversation flows easily, effortlessly, if you find her fairly responsive and you can keep up the conversation for at least a half hour you can ask her out.
Her answer seems to be: “YES”.