Is it okay to lie to your significant other?

Growing up, mother’s everywhere always tell their children that honesty is the best policy, but is it really? There are a few times when you just have to fudge the truth a tiny bit.

It’s no surprise that both genders rely on lying to some extent to keep the peace. They just do it differently and sometimes for different reasons.

All humans, especially women say they want their partner to be honest. Is this the truth? Can you keep a relationship up and running if you are telling the truth all the time?

Imagine that you just have brought your girlfriend at your home, to spend the night together for the first time. You have made a great effort to arrange and clean your home and especially the bedroom. You are proud about this and ask your partner what she believes about your home.

She responds “It is a little old fashioned… and something smells bad in here”. Ups!  Ok.

You two pass through this awkward moment, then you start kissing each other, but you make a joke about… the size of your penis, and instead to hear the most used reply: “hey, relax, size really doesn’t matter”, she tells you that her ex was quite huge.

Ups… Not again. 🙂

If she were to say just two little lies everything could be great, but now…

The truth is, telling a few lies can be one of the best ways to keep your relationship healthy.

So if you want to keep her happy and keep getting laid, you’re going to have to learn how to lie – and lie convincingly. The trick is figuring out what she wants to hear.

1. Never mention your sexual past… especially if it was a good one. If your girlfriend asks you what it was like or how good your ex was, you can tell a lie if you have to. Say it wasn’t all that good. Don’t ever mention her. Even if what you’re saying is uncomplimentary, it will still have a negative effect. You bringing her up hints that she’s still on your mind.

2. When it comes about how she looks, if you picked her to be your partner, you have to make her feel that she is a WOMAN. Every woman has something beautiful, something sexy and attractive, and if you make her know that you find her attractive she will be more confident, wilder and more passionate. But when she asks you about something you don’t really like at her look, never but never tell her your true opinion. Just say that it is OK and pass over the moment. If you are telling her that you don’t like something at her, she will feel frustrated and become more inhibited.

3. Everybody knows that women have more sensibility than men. So pay attention to her sensibility and don’t make bad jokes about other people (especially her family) or let her know when you are up to take the cat and throw it out through the window.  She will find you insensitive and you will lose points.  Use your common sense and try not to hurt your woman’s feelings even if you have to say a little lie from time to time.

Overall, lying is a bad thing to do. But when it comes to women, you really have no choice.

The little white lies don’t hurt anyone and are only meant as reassurance every now and then

It’s therefore okay to tell a person what they want to hear just to keep the peace.

Some of the best advice I ever heard was to learn to pick your battles. Only fight about what REALLY matters. So if you know saying something is going to set her off, is it really worth it?

 

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Interesting Online Dates

So you are in a relationship with someone you met online. Just like with someone you meet offline, if you are going to date someone, you need to have memorable things you can do together.

A couple of popular online activities are sharing recipes and bidding at auctions. And both of these easily fit well into online dating opportunities, one of the most popular online activities for singles today.

Online dating can be an educational and fun experience. So learn more about each other and have fun while you’re at it. Take a cyber-stroll down memory lane together and see what’s cookin’.

To help many dates get better acquainted online, here’s what potential cyber-dates do.

Sharing Recipes – People get tired talking about the weather. So a popular subject to turn to is food. Sharing favorite foods and recipes helps break the ice and even forms friendships over culinary skills – or lack of – and tastes. Search your favorite search engine for “free recipes” to share. Take photos of your culinary creations and share them with your date, too.

Bidding at Auctions – Ebay auctions sell nearly anything and everything! So surf around and enter searches like the dates you were in middle school. Share cool memorabilia photos of old games and toys from when you were a child or when your parents or grandparents were little; The Dating Game, Oscar Mayer wiener whistles, The Partridge Family Album, Bobby Sherman’s Album, 45’s and more.

Watch a movie together! Hey just because you aren’t physically together doesn’t mean you can’t watch a movie together. If both of you have a Netflix account, then you can do a Skype Netflix date. how it works is simple … you both pick a movie you want to watch, queue it up and then make a Skype video call so you can watch the movie at the same time.

Go all Fifty Shades together! Thanks to a site called Wasteland 3D  (WARNING THIS SITE IS FOR ADULTS ONLY) you can play Christian Grey and Ana Steele through a virtual 3D world and even take a stroll in his Penthouse. Basically it’s a way for you and your date to have a very unique online date, and get down and dirty in a very unique way. Just remember, before you ask her to do this, you might want to make sure you’ve known each other for awhile. Typically females don’t want to hookup in that way with some guy they just met online.

 

 

 

Know What to Look for in a Woman

My grandmother used to say something to me that is so obvious but damn if it isn’t so true. How can you get what you want if you don’t really know what it is you actually want?

Sometimes, knowing what you’re looking for in a woman can be quite difficult. And if you’re one of them, don’t get discouraged. It truly isn’t as difficult as you may think to find the right woman for you.

The very first thing you must do is resign to be very open-minded. You need to cast aside all the standards that you may have been using and start from scratch.  Forget what all your buddies say is attractive. Never mind what you see in the lingerie commercials on television. You’ll want to start with the very basics of what makes two people compatible, not two lovers, but two people in general, in order to find what kind of person works for you.

In order to find out what you are really looking for in a woman, you need to take the time to consider the complete person, not just the body. You need to take into consideration things like personality, interests, ambition and then looks. You’re probably wondering why I listed those traits in the order I did.

If you consider looks first it will tend to cloud your judgment on all the other traits. Men tend to be very easily visually stimulated. For this reason, what excites them at first sight tends to be what they think they want.

However, if you consider what you want in the other areas, the looks may not be so important. You may find that a woman with a great personality that likes football and racing as much as you do and who takes her career as a human resources director seriously, but who happens to be a brunette with only an average build, would suit you just fine. Personality, intelligence, ambition, sense of humor and interests play a much bigger role in attraction than just physical appearance.

5 Ways to Improve Your Online Relationship

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow.

Here are some quick tips to help improve your online relationship over time.

1. Take time and make time.  Although this one should be an obvious, you’d be surprised how many people don’t take the time to give their significant other enough time.

Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.  Just because you have no problem posting pictures online, doesn’t mean the other person does. You should ask before you post anything online of another person.

4. Share special online and offline fun times. It doesn’t matter if you are in an offline or online relationship … you still need to have special and fun things that you can do. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

5. Don’t forget important events. When is the first time you met (even if just online)? When is the first time you decided to be more than just friends? Write these dates down and celebrate them with your online lover. You’d be surprised how grateful your significant other will be. Just because your relationship is only online doesn’t make it any less real and a fundamental part of relationships are celebrating special events together. If you have a problem remembering important dates, use Google calendar or set a reminder in your smartphone.

Tend your online relationship just as you would an offline relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow … and who knows, maybe one day it can be something more.

1st Time Meeting After Chatting Online

Technology has always been there to make lives of people easier. In fact, thanks to technology the world of emotions has also been conquered. Don’t try to think dirty here folks. What I’m talking about is the love connection that can happen through online dating sites and chatting rooms or software such as Skype, ICQ, MSN, or SnapChat.

Thanks to these websites and instant messaging software, people have been given a better chance to find their partner online.

This is because people are given the opportunity to be connected wherever they might be. All different cultures and walks of life are able to meet with a simple click of the keyboard. In short a person has got a better chance to meet his or her partner because of the greater number of daters. It is also easier to meet people online thanks to online date sites and chat rooms.

After chatting for a while and getting to know one another, it would be natural to meet. It would be a pretty shallow relationship if both of you are happy to be forever just chatting. Both people may just be really looking for someone to talk to.

Finding love through the internet offers the two sides to get intimate right away. This is because it is easier to be yourself when chatting online. Just imagine that you can say anything stupid and you won’t see the other person thinking that it’s corny. Instead most chatters, even though you are pretty corny just type LOL (laugh out loud).

Because of the perception that you have built about yourself and the other person, meeting them becomes very hard. This is because of the perception you have given to him or her during chatting could not be really you. Both of you will then have higher expectations of who the real person really is.

Another problem that online chatting could present is the confidence of a person. Since it is easier to talk online, a person who is very shy or timid may have a hard time keeping up with who he or she really is. The person instead is like living both worlds.

When also meeting for the first time after long periods of chatting that could last in the wee hours of the morning, is being able to adjust. Both of you would have to figure out that it would be harder to talk on real life because of certain other factors involved. You are now both able to see the person’s mannerisms. This will be the toughest part that you would have to overcome. Once you have gone past this, the rest will be easier.

It is suggestible though to meet sooner rather than later. When meeting earlier at the chatting stages, this prevents both person having higher expectations. This also helps both parties to decide right away whether they are just better of friends or continue to develop the relationship. This helps both parties prevent disappointment and heartaches.

Remember rule #1 — always meet in a public place. Even if you feel really connected to the person, you just never know. It’s always better to be safe than sorry!

 

Sex Dating! Spicing up Your Dating Life

Yes, sex dating is actually a thing. The whole concept of love and sex has changed over the years. Sites like Tinder (the hook-up place) has proven that. But is that really a bad thing? Psychology depicts love and sex as a cognitive and social phenomenon comprised of three different components: intimacy, commitment and passion.

Having sex is obviously the natural and desired physical manifestation of attraction. But it sounds like even though you enjoy the sex, most want something more from a dating relationship – including honest and meaningful communication, vacations together, date nights, time together with friends, etc.

As it is said, “Sex is more than an act of enjoyment, it is the aptitude to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you’re a part of them.”

To boost your sex dating relationship

  • Enjoy a romantic dinner together.
  • Give one another a long, sensual massage.
  • Try watching an erotic video together.
  • Explore new sexual positions, push your boundaries.
  • Go on a romantic vacation or getaway with one another, free of distractions.
  • Find common ground to share, like a hobby or sport you can enjoy together.

If you really interested in spicing up your romantic sex life, online dating can help!  Just remember that not everyone is looking for that kind of dating to approach potential mates with caution.

Establishing Online Dating Relationships: Safety First

Online dating can be fun. But don’t neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.

Protect Your Computer

Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At the bare minimum, you may want to try a solution that is offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e. not for commercial use):

The program is called Malwarebytes. If you don’t have it, you should get it now!

Protect Yourself

Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service.  How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbors, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend. In addition, search “online dating services” and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place.  Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.

So take care. Arm your computer – and yourself- with the correct tools and knowledge!