Is it okay to lie to your significant other?

Growing up, mother’s everywhere always tell their children that honesty is the best policy, but is it really? There are a few times when you just have to fudge the truth a tiny bit.

It’s no surprise that both genders rely on lying to some extent to keep the peace. They just do it differently and sometimes for different reasons.

All humans, especially women say they want their partner to be honest. Is this the truth? Can you keep a relationship up and running if you are telling the truth all the time?

Imagine that you just have brought your girlfriend at your home, to spend the night together for the first time. You have made a great effort to arrange and clean your home and especially the bedroom. You are proud about this and ask your partner what she believes about your home.

She responds “It is a little old fashioned… and something smells bad in here”. Ups!  Ok.

You two pass through this awkward moment, then you start kissing each other, but you make a joke about… the size of your penis, and instead to hear the most used reply: “hey, relax, size really doesn’t matter”, she tells you that her ex was quite huge.

Ups… Not again. 🙂

If she were to say just two little lies everything could be great, but now…

The truth is, telling a few lies can be one of the best ways to keep your relationship healthy.

So if you want to keep her happy and keep getting laid, you’re going to have to learn how to lie – and lie convincingly. The trick is figuring out what she wants to hear.

1. Never mention your sexual past… especially if it was a good one. If your girlfriend asks you what it was like or how good your ex was, you can tell a lie if you have to. Say it wasn’t all that good. Don’t ever mention her. Even if what you’re saying is uncomplimentary, it will still have a negative effect. You bringing her up hints that she’s still on your mind.

2. When it comes about how she looks, if you picked her to be your partner, you have to make her feel that she is a WOMAN. Every woman has something beautiful, something sexy and attractive, and if you make her know that you find her attractive she will be more confident, wilder and more passionate. But when she asks you about something you don’t really like at her look, never but never tell her your true opinion. Just say that it is OK and pass over the moment. If you are telling her that you don’t like something at her, she will feel frustrated and become more inhibited.

3. Everybody knows that women have more sensibility than men. So pay attention to her sensibility and don’t make bad jokes about other people (especially her family) or let her know when you are up to take the cat and throw it out through the window.  She will find you insensitive and you will lose points.  Use your common sense and try not to hurt your woman’s feelings even if you have to say a little lie from time to time.

Overall, lying is a bad thing to do. But when it comes to women, you really have no choice.

The little white lies don’t hurt anyone and are only meant as reassurance every now and then

It’s therefore okay to tell a person what they want to hear just to keep the peace.

Some of the best advice I ever heard was to learn to pick your battles. Only fight about what REALLY matters. So if you know saying something is going to set her off, is it really worth it?

 

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How Having a Strong Inner Game Will Change Your Life

Have you ever had great success in one venue, maybe house parties, but were unable to succeed with women you met other places, like perhaps night clubs?

Often it is easier for you to be cool and social in one venue than another because that is your `comfort zone`.  You know what to say, how to say it, and who to say it too when you are in a place you are familiar or comfortable in.

But outside of that zone, you are toast! This is because we often use certain external techniques and social skills that do not really apply to every venue we might find ourselves in. When you have deep set beliefs that you are a high status male, and that no matter where you are, that you are among the elite males, then all these anxieties and problems fall away.

How? Because your strength and resolves makes other people change THEIR mode of behavior to suit yours.

Bill Clinton has game. I can’t explain it but in most circles, Bill Clinton is the man. It doesn’t matter if he is at a Washington political party or a backyard BBQ. He just gets women to fall over him.

If Bill Clinton walked into a raging rock concert or hip hop concert, this one man, would have everyone in a completely different frame of mind, all begging to appease HIS way of interaction. The people bend to him because he has inner game.

Inner Game Positively Influences Your Body Language

  • Fifty-five percent of the communications signals we send results from how others see us.
  • Thirty-eight percent flows from the way they hear us
  • Seven percent comes from our words

 

Having a solid Inner Game allows your body language to accurately communicate with those around you. This is called `congruence`, when your words are matched by your attitude and body language. If you say Super Man things to a woman, but feel like Clark Kent inside, and she WILL know, and you will get nowhere with her.

Inner Game Improves Every Aspect Of Your Life, Making You More Attractive.

Inner Game development need not be limited to confidence with women. It can apply to every aspect of your life in general.

You can rethink previous ideas, like you’ll never be able to get into a good college, or you’ll never make a good XYZ and then your subconscious will begin helping you to change so that these things can happen. What is best is that being successful in life ( and I don’t mean being rich ) will make you doubly attractive to women, and that will raise your confidence even more. It is cyclical.

Not learning proper Inner Game techniques can lead to ALOT of frustration AND embarrassment too using seduction tactics that seem incongruent. Without Inner Game, no amount of “negging”, or “cocky funny” will allow you to have lasting success with women.

In other words, start with the basics … improve your self confidence and improve your art of small talk and you’d be surprised just how drastically all aspects of your life will change.

No not just your love life but everything including your job, how much money you make and how everyone you meet treats you.

1st Time Meeting After Chatting Online

Technology has always been there to make lives of people easier. In fact, thanks to technology the world of emotions has also been conquered. Don’t try to think dirty here folks. What I’m talking about is the love connection that can happen through online dating sites and chatting rooms or software such as Skype, ICQ, MSN, or SnapChat.

Thanks to these websites and instant messaging software, people have been given a better chance to find their partner online.

This is because people are given the opportunity to be connected wherever they might be. All different cultures and walks of life are able to meet with a simple click of the keyboard. In short a person has got a better chance to meet his or her partner because of the greater number of daters. It is also easier to meet people online thanks to online date sites and chat rooms.

After chatting for a while and getting to know one another, it would be natural to meet. It would be a pretty shallow relationship if both of you are happy to be forever just chatting. Both people may just be really looking for someone to talk to.

Finding love through the internet offers the two sides to get intimate right away. This is because it is easier to be yourself when chatting online. Just imagine that you can say anything stupid and you won’t see the other person thinking that it’s corny. Instead most chatters, even though you are pretty corny just type LOL (laugh out loud).

Because of the perception that you have built about yourself and the other person, meeting them becomes very hard. This is because of the perception you have given to him or her during chatting could not be really you. Both of you will then have higher expectations of who the real person really is.

Another problem that online chatting could present is the confidence of a person. Since it is easier to talk online, a person who is very shy or timid may have a hard time keeping up with who he or she really is. The person instead is like living both worlds.

When also meeting for the first time after long periods of chatting that could last in the wee hours of the morning, is being able to adjust. Both of you would have to figure out that it would be harder to talk on real life because of certain other factors involved. You are now both able to see the person’s mannerisms. This will be the toughest part that you would have to overcome. Once you have gone past this, the rest will be easier.

It is suggestible though to meet sooner rather than later. When meeting earlier at the chatting stages, this prevents both person having higher expectations. This also helps both parties to decide right away whether they are just better of friends or continue to develop the relationship. This helps both parties prevent disappointment and heartaches.

Remember rule #1 — always meet in a public place. Even if you feel really connected to the person, you just never know. It’s always better to be safe than sorry!