Growing up, mother’s everywhere always tell their children that honesty is the best policy, but is it really? There are a few times when you just have to fudge the truth a tiny bit.
It’s no surprise that both genders rely on lying to some extent to keep the peace. They just do it differently and sometimes for different reasons.
All humans, especially women say they want their partner to be honest. Is this the truth? Can you keep a relationship up and running if you are telling the truth all the time?
Imagine that you just have brought your girlfriend at your home, to spend the night together for the first time. You have made a great effort to arrange and clean your home and especially the bedroom. You are proud about this and ask your partner what she believes about your home.
She responds “It is a little old fashioned… and something smells bad in here”. Ups! Ok.
You two pass through this awkward moment, then you start kissing each other, but you make a joke about… the size of your penis, and instead to hear the most used reply: “hey, relax, size really doesn’t matter”, she tells you that her ex was quite huge.
Ups… Not again. 🙂
If she were to say just two little lies everything could be great, but now…
The truth is, telling a few lies can be one of the best ways to keep your relationship healthy.
So if you want to keep her happy and keep getting laid, you’re going to have to learn how to lie – and lie convincingly. The trick is figuring out what she wants to hear.
1. Never mention your sexual past… especially if it was a good one. If your girlfriend asks you what it was like or how good your ex was, you can tell a lie if you have to. Say it wasn’t all that good. Don’t ever mention her. Even if what you’re saying is uncomplimentary, it will still have a negative effect. You bringing her up hints that she’s still on your mind.
2. When it comes about how she looks, if you picked her to be your partner, you have to make her feel that she is a WOMAN. Every woman has something beautiful, something sexy and attractive, and if you make her know that you find her attractive she will be more confident, wilder and more passionate. But when she asks you about something you don’t really like at her look, never but never tell her your true opinion. Just say that it is OK and pass over the moment. If you are telling her that you don’t like something at her, she will feel frustrated and become more inhibited.
3. Everybody knows that women have more sensibility than men. So pay attention to her sensibility and don’t make bad jokes about other people (especially her family) or let her know when you are up to take the cat and throw it out through the window. She will find you insensitive and you will lose points. Use your common sense and try not to hurt your woman’s feelings even if you have to say a little lie from time to time.
Overall, lying is a bad thing to do. But when it comes to women, you really have no choice.
The little white lies don’t hurt anyone and are only meant as reassurance every now and then
It’s therefore okay to tell a person what they want to hear just to keep the peace.
Some of the best advice I ever heard was to learn to pick your battles. Only fight about what REALLY matters. So if you know saying something is going to set her off, is it really worth it?