Don’t judge a book by its cover!

I know this tip may sound very cliché, but it’s true.

At some point or another we’re all guilty of judging something, or someone, based on appearance alone. While it’s not right, we still seem to have that tendency to be superficial. This type of behavior can be very detrimental when it comes to seducing a woman.

Women like to be appreciated for who they are, not what they look like. Even those women who have great physical beauty don’t necessarily want to be judged on that characteristic alone.

Women keep the thought in the back of their mind that one day they may want to have a child. If and when they become pregnant, look at all the changes their body goes through. The mere fact that their body has to expand at a very rapid pace to accommodate the growth of the baby is frightening. And the knowledge that their figure may never be the same is equally frightening.

Another thought that women have is that eventually we all get older and less youthful in appearance. We know that in general, a man is considered more distinguished looking when his hair takes on the salt and pepper look, whereas women merely look old.

A few wrinkles on a man are no big deal, but for women the first sign of a wrinkle is cause to consider botox treatment, or more. Society has made women terribly self conscious. Bear in mind when considering what you truly believe is important in a woman. If looks is top on your list it will surely lead to a very dissatisfying experience for you, and your woman.

I’m not trying to say that you have to resolve to be happy with someone you find utterly unattractive. Women all have preferences in looks, personality and many other traits that we have to abide by. It’s a matter of compatibility.

But what women do have to take into consideration is that attraction is not just a matter of physical appearance. So take the time to find out what’s inside before you discount women based on what’s outside.

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3 Things That Can Save You When You Don’t Know What To Say

You are dating a beautiful but shy girl or one that is not all that talkative. You have already chatted about your hobbies, your family, her family, your job and hers and now nothing else come to mind and she is not really helping you out or at least that’s what you think.

One of the best ways of having a good, healthy and wholesome chat with your girlfriend is to start with small talk. The small talk will give you a general picture about her likes and dislikes, as well as what she would like to discuss and what she would rather leave alone. Once the small talk gives you a general idea, you can go ahead and discuss your common likes and dislikes.

But what is really freaking you are those moment of silence. Uhh… horrible moments. 🙂 The key to avoid or get over these horrible moments are:

1. Compliment her

It sounds simple, right? Well it really is.

The fact is most people are shy about meeting new people. I used to be enormously shy. But when you think about it, shyness is merely a fear that others won’t like you, or that you may be rejected in some way. It’s natural for us to desire acceptance. So try to make her know that you like her by making a compliment. But find something that you really find attractive about her, about her lifestyle or her personality. She will become more confident and more open to share her believes and her shyness won’t be a problem for a fluid conversation.

2. Asking open ended questions

How you ask questions is very important in establishing a basis for an effective communication. Effective questions open the door to knowledge and understanding. The art of questioning lies in knowing which questions to ask when.

My favorites questions are “why” and “how” questions. You can use these frequently without being annoying. She will feel that you are interested in what she is telling you and will develop her answers.

Therefore, you should think carefully before speaking and taking up subjects that might be repugnant to her.

3. Listen, listen, and just in case you didn’t get it — listen.

Sometimes someone can’t speak because you won’t shut up.

Usually when the woman starts talking about her favorite subjects (feelings, family, relationships, friends and her work) many men lose interest or bring the conversation back to themselves. This is one of the biggest mistake men are doing all the time.

They also like to exchange jokes and anecdotes and spend a fair amount of time playing one-up and boasting. Stop doing that!!!

Allow HER to have HER points of view, while you have yours. Men have felt like they have either had to abandon their own beliefs in order to try to get a woman, OR they had to fight with women about what they believe in. Both approaches lead to failure.

She is not there with you just to hear about your hero qualities, but to have a great time!

 

Is it okay to lie to your significant other?

Growing up, mother’s everywhere always tell their children that honesty is the best policy, but is it really? There are a few times when you just have to fudge the truth a tiny bit.

It’s no surprise that both genders rely on lying to some extent to keep the peace. They just do it differently and sometimes for different reasons.

All humans, especially women say they want their partner to be honest. Is this the truth? Can you keep a relationship up and running if you are telling the truth all the time?

Imagine that you just have brought your girlfriend at your home, to spend the night together for the first time. You have made a great effort to arrange and clean your home and especially the bedroom. You are proud about this and ask your partner what she believes about your home.

She responds “It is a little old fashioned… and something smells bad in here”. Ups!  Ok.

You two pass through this awkward moment, then you start kissing each other, but you make a joke about… the size of your penis, and instead to hear the most used reply: “hey, relax, size really doesn’t matter”, she tells you that her ex was quite huge.

Ups… Not again. 🙂

If she were to say just two little lies everything could be great, but now…

The truth is, telling a few lies can be one of the best ways to keep your relationship healthy.

So if you want to keep her happy and keep getting laid, you’re going to have to learn how to lie – and lie convincingly. The trick is figuring out what she wants to hear.

1. Never mention your sexual past… especially if it was a good one. If your girlfriend asks you what it was like or how good your ex was, you can tell a lie if you have to. Say it wasn’t all that good. Don’t ever mention her. Even if what you’re saying is uncomplimentary, it will still have a negative effect. You bringing her up hints that she’s still on your mind.

2. When it comes about how she looks, if you picked her to be your partner, you have to make her feel that she is a WOMAN. Every woman has something beautiful, something sexy and attractive, and if you make her know that you find her attractive she will be more confident, wilder and more passionate. But when she asks you about something you don’t really like at her look, never but never tell her your true opinion. Just say that it is OK and pass over the moment. If you are telling her that you don’t like something at her, she will feel frustrated and become more inhibited.

3. Everybody knows that women have more sensibility than men. So pay attention to her sensibility and don’t make bad jokes about other people (especially her family) or let her know when you are up to take the cat and throw it out through the window.  She will find you insensitive and you will lose points.  Use your common sense and try not to hurt your woman’s feelings even if you have to say a little lie from time to time.

Overall, lying is a bad thing to do. But when it comes to women, you really have no choice.

The little white lies don’t hurt anyone and are only meant as reassurance every now and then

It’s therefore okay to tell a person what they want to hear just to keep the peace.

Some of the best advice I ever heard was to learn to pick your battles. Only fight about what REALLY matters. So if you know saying something is going to set her off, is it really worth it?

 

How Having a Strong Inner Game Will Change Your Life

Have you ever had great success in one venue, maybe house parties, but were unable to succeed with women you met other places, like perhaps night clubs?

Often it is easier for you to be cool and social in one venue than another because that is your `comfort zone`.  You know what to say, how to say it, and who to say it too when you are in a place you are familiar or comfortable in.

But outside of that zone, you are toast! This is because we often use certain external techniques and social skills that do not really apply to every venue we might find ourselves in. When you have deep set beliefs that you are a high status male, and that no matter where you are, that you are among the elite males, then all these anxieties and problems fall away.

How? Because your strength and resolves makes other people change THEIR mode of behavior to suit yours.

Bill Clinton has game. I can’t explain it but in most circles, Bill Clinton is the man. It doesn’t matter if he is at a Washington political party or a backyard BBQ. He just gets women to fall over him.

If Bill Clinton walked into a raging rock concert or hip hop concert, this one man, would have everyone in a completely different frame of mind, all begging to appease HIS way of interaction. The people bend to him because he has inner game.

Inner Game Positively Influences Your Body Language

  • Fifty-five percent of the communications signals we send results from how others see us.
  • Thirty-eight percent flows from the way they hear us
  • Seven percent comes from our words

 

Having a solid Inner Game allows your body language to accurately communicate with those around you. This is called `congruence`, when your words are matched by your attitude and body language. If you say Super Man things to a woman, but feel like Clark Kent inside, and she WILL know, and you will get nowhere with her.

Inner Game Improves Every Aspect Of Your Life, Making You More Attractive.

Inner Game development need not be limited to confidence with women. It can apply to every aspect of your life in general.

You can rethink previous ideas, like you’ll never be able to get into a good college, or you’ll never make a good XYZ and then your subconscious will begin helping you to change so that these things can happen. What is best is that being successful in life ( and I don’t mean being rich ) will make you doubly attractive to women, and that will raise your confidence even more. It is cyclical.

Not learning proper Inner Game techniques can lead to ALOT of frustration AND embarrassment too using seduction tactics that seem incongruent. Without Inner Game, no amount of “negging”, or “cocky funny” will allow you to have lasting success with women.

In other words, start with the basics … improve your self confidence and improve your art of small talk and you’d be surprised just how drastically all aspects of your life will change.

No not just your love life but everything including your job, how much money you make and how everyone you meet treats you.

Know What to Look for in a Woman

My grandmother used to say something to me that is so obvious but damn if it isn’t so true. How can you get what you want if you don’t really know what it is you actually want?

Sometimes, knowing what you’re looking for in a woman can be quite difficult. And if you’re one of them, don’t get discouraged. It truly isn’t as difficult as you may think to find the right woman for you.

The very first thing you must do is resign to be very open-minded. You need to cast aside all the standards that you may have been using and start from scratch.  Forget what all your buddies say is attractive. Never mind what you see in the lingerie commercials on television. You’ll want to start with the very basics of what makes two people compatible, not two lovers, but two people in general, in order to find what kind of person works for you.

In order to find out what you are really looking for in a woman, you need to take the time to consider the complete person, not just the body. You need to take into consideration things like personality, interests, ambition and then looks. You’re probably wondering why I listed those traits in the order I did.

If you consider looks first it will tend to cloud your judgment on all the other traits. Men tend to be very easily visually stimulated. For this reason, what excites them at first sight tends to be what they think they want.

However, if you consider what you want in the other areas, the looks may not be so important. You may find that a woman with a great personality that likes football and racing as much as you do and who takes her career as a human resources director seriously, but who happens to be a brunette with only an average build, would suit you just fine. Personality, intelligence, ambition, sense of humor and interests play a much bigger role in attraction than just physical appearance.

5 Ways to Improve Your Online Relationship

Just like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow.

Here are some quick tips to help improve your online relationship over time.

1. Take time and make time.  Although this one should be an obvious, you’d be surprised how many people don’t take the time to give their significant other enough time.

Does your online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual meetings can be considered abuse or neglect, so treat each other’s time with respect. If it’s lacking, might mean time to move on.

2. Communication needs to “feel” right for both of you. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don’t rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust.

3. Respect each others privacy. Don’t share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.  Just because you have no problem posting pictures online, doesn’t mean the other person does. You should ask before you post anything online of another person.

4. Share special online and offline fun times. It doesn’t matter if you are in an offline or online relationship … you still need to have special and fun things that you can do. Online – send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline- if you’re exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).

5. Don’t forget important events. When is the first time you met (even if just online)? When is the first time you decided to be more than just friends? Write these dates down and celebrate them with your online lover. You’d be surprised how grateful your significant other will be. Just because your relationship is only online doesn’t make it any less real and a fundamental part of relationships are celebrating special events together. If you have a problem remembering important dates, use Google calendar or set a reminder in your smartphone.

Tend your online relationship just as you would an offline relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow … and who knows, maybe one day it can be something more.

Building Your Confidence in Dating Women

When it comes to dating or even seducing a woman, confidence is vital.

Let’s be real, confidence is the key to success with anything you do in life … relationships, your career, getting a raise. Haven’t you ever seen a really hot girl with some average guy and wondered how in the hell he got her? Self confidence!

Women often equate “self confidence” with the ability to be successful. While many men believe that women look for successful men because they’re likely to make more money, that’s simply not true.

While it’s a given, women actually look for successful men because they’re more likely to be satisfied. So you may be wondering what a man being satisfied has to do with anything. Let me explain. You see, women know that men who are satisfied with themselves are less likely to go out looking for someone to satisfy them and are more stable.

And in a relationship that means a man will be less likely to cheat, or change jobs frequently or get himself into any number of other compromising situations. Remember that most women are looking for a man who will be their partner as well as their lover.

Not only do they want a partner when it comes to things like companionship, decision-making and finances, but in the bedroom, as well. In order to effectively seduce a woman you must make her feel as though you’re both equals.

When it comes to confidence, it seems there are two kinds of people – those who have it and others who simply don’t. Although on the surface this may be true, everyone has the potential to be “self confident”, or motivated if you would like to call it.

Take heart in knowing that you’re a good person, smart, funny, good at your job, loving, considerate or whatever else you find to be positive character traits that you have. Be comforted to know that NOT all women are looking for a CEO or brain surgeon. They just want a man who’s confident with who he is, what he knows and what he has to offer to a relationship with them!